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Identity Tree

Identity Tree

For many women, one of the most difficult parts of leaving an abusive relationship is letting go of their current identity and the values and beliefs that come with it, primarily socially enforced female gender role expectations.  In my original interpretation, the tree represented the possibility of a new identity, One that would allow every woman to be the person she wants to be: without guilt, without shame, and without abuse. I use the tree to represent “the self” because trees have many of the same qualities that people do.  These qualities help us to move forward in our lives despite tragic losses.

The tree has the ability to grow and change with the seasons, to adapt to changing conditions, to sway in the breezes of life without breaking, and to regenerate after devastating loss.  The tree is beautiful in many ways, primarily for its many imperfections. For people, these differences make us more human, more relational, more empathic, more unique, and more beautiful. Trees cannot stand alone though.  They must be firmly rooted in a solid foundation, just as people must be firmly rooted in their connections with others who are loving and supportive.  We must also be firmly rooted in a sense of identity that does not require us to sacrifice ourselves on the altar of social acceptability and allows us to reach our maximum potential.

Kendra Pennington-Zoellner



An end and a beginning….

A beginning....

My hope is to produce a blog about being a person, a woman, a feminist, a leader, mentor, an atheist, a lover, a mother, a friend, and all of the other many roles and identities that define who I am.  I am an expert on sexism and violence against women and I hope to create a following of men and women who want to understand sexism, who want to end sexism, who want authentic relationships with their partners, their children, their friends….relationships that are built upon being authentically who you are, without having to sacrifice your identity on the “alter of social acceptability”. There are no female or male characteristics/qualities; there are only human characteristics. All of us deserve the the right to be fully human, regardless of our biological “sex” or our sexual orientation.

Welcome to my Blog. Welcome to my Life.  I look forward to the relationships, the dialogue, and the wonder.  I promise to change your life, if you’ll let me in.